By Nina Wilson, PLMHP, PLADC
Who doesn't love rollercoasters?
You know how you get on a rollercoaster and once you buckle, the attendant would say it is too late now, push the button and just like that, you are on the ride. Your stomach has butterflies, head banging, feet dangling, hands tightening and screams project out your mouth.
Our emotions can be dysregulated. When they are dysregulated, it feels we are on a rollercoaster. Head banging, people pushing our buttons, screams projected from our mouth and more. Dysregulated emotions can cause stress, stress leads to so many things. Usually a roller coaster is about 30 seconds-2 minutes however, it can feel like forever. Eventually you want to get off the ride.
At the end of the ride, you're instructed to remain seated until the attendant clears you. I want to encourage you by sharing seven tips to clear you:
Allow God to be your attendant
Screams = Prayer
Breathe when you feel those butterflies in your stomach
Head banging? Slow down and drink water
Feet dangling? Stand firm 1 Cor. 16:13 be on your guard; stand firm in the faith; be courageous; be strong. 1 Cor. 15:58 Therefore my dear brothers and sister, stand firm. Let nothing move you.
Hands tightening- release one finger at a time; name those fingers with something you are grateful for. At the end, you should be able to identify 10 things you are grateful for.
Continued Screams projecting from your mouth – if you are going to scream, scream positive affirmations. Proverbs 29:11 Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end. Repeat this positive affirmation “I am stronger than any of my problems, I am doing my best and that is enough. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up, show up and never give up."
A technique model I learned to help me with my emotions is waking up with a grateful heart. It is a morning check in, wake up, identify your feelings, list your goals, and state three things you are grateful for. By completing this plus the seven bullet points mentioned above, I have been able to starting my day positively. The seven bullet points mentioned above help me not stand in the long line waiting on a rollercoaster that will give me dysregulated feelings.